Friday, July 29, 2005
Last night she was in her room getting ready for bed when she suddenly turned to her mother and said: "Mommy, I love you very much." My wife was very touched by her words, but curiousity took over, wondering if Isabel really knows how much is much. So she said:"I love you too Bel, but how much do you love me?"
Isabel thought hard, then cheerfully replied:"$$2 dollars$$."
My wife almost flipped out of her chair for laughing hard. but she quickly composed herself and asked: "how about Daddy? How much do you love him?"
This time Bel gave a quicker reply:"1 dollar"
Mother: "How about your baby sister Ally?"
Isabel: "10 dollars"
Mother: "Wha... OK... Auntie Yani? (my maid)"
Isabel: "ten cents". kua kua...
I was in the clinic when I saw a product, its for sterilizing toothbrush. I casually approached the counter to the middle aged lady, who was looking seriously at the computer screen as if gold is going to drop out from it, I politely acquired about the price of the product, but she gave me a "can't-you-see-I'm-busy" look. She said "can you come back later?" Not wanting to start an argument, I backed away, letting her go back to her little world. Maybe she's suffering menopause... yah...maybe...
Wednesday, July 27, 2005
Whenever I come home to visit, he would jump up and down, wanting me to carry him. But my maid is super afraid of him, she'll keep a 6 feet distance away from him even though he's caged in for her sake. She very funny one, she'll climb over table and chairs just to keep a safe distance from the little dog.
Once, my sister brought along her dog, Cola, my maid just froze at the entrance, hands covering her face to muffle a scream. Lucky she didn't drop my baby.
Monday, July 25, 2005
I was at a typical local wedding dinner in a nice little restaurant in harbor Front. Food was pretty good, environment is cozy, free flow of soft drinks and red wine. Friends and relatives gathered, updating their lives to each other yapping and gawking as if the other party is really interested. But on the other hand, the things that we are willing to say are so superficial, so surface... There is no meat to it. Because we are afraid that other people will see the loser side of us, so we all put up a defence, a guard not to let others into our lives easily.
"Hey, how's work?"
"Oh, you know... Can't complain..." (just got fired, but won't tell you that)
" Wife and kids ok?"
"Yeah! Great! Yours?"
"Ok." (Marriage is on the rock but what do you know?)
What can you gather thru a conversation like this? ... NOTHING!!! But that's socializing.
Have you ever wandered why they have a set of common use chopstick or spoon next to every dish they served? Its obvious that for hygiene purpose we are to use it to pick up the portion we want right? But still there are people who use their OWN utensils, dipping in and out of the vegetables and source with no sense of guilt. I mean... I may know you, but I don't REALLY know you all that well, so please, keep your bodily fluid to yourself.
How late can a guest be when it comes to attending a typical local wedding dinner? I saw guests coming in at 8:40pm thinking they are some kind of super VVVVVVIP. What were they thinking? The invitation card clearly states that guest are to be seated by 7:30pm. Even if you can't make it at 7:30pm, latest 8pm is still fine, ya?
Maybe by being late they can avoid the pretty receptionists at the entrance who's job was to collect the red packets from the guests. Ah...
The beautiful young couple did their best to start early at 8:15pm, which was really early by local standard. The changing of the dishes were so fast and prompt, somehow we started to realize the pattern, so by the 3rd dish, everyone was going for the kill before the dish landed.
Isabel enjoyed the food as much as I did, she even ate the celery which was usually a challenge for her. She's happy that for once dinner is not a rush, taking her time to taste every delicately cooked dish with nobody breathing down her neck.
She often took an hour to finish a meal at home(despite all the threats of canning her if she don't complete it). We've tried almost everything, with TV, without TV, let her run around or bolted to the high chair. It still takes an hour.
Thursday, July 21, 2005
I remember the days when we don't have a FDH ( Foreign Domestic Helper) under our roof, I'd be staying up till midnight scrubbing... washing... cleaning... folding... sweeping... I'm not complaining, what needs to be done around the house has to be done. You can never imagine the tense frustration between me and my wife. Beside giving instructions and barking order at each other and the kids, there seems to be no other form of communications left.
But now, its different. I come home to a nice clean environment with home cooked food (I would appreciate more variety) and almost nice smelling kids.
I was once pretty much against the idea of having a total stranger in my house, especially after hearing some of the gruesome stories told by local employers about their encounter with their FDH, for example: There was this village girl who came to S'pore to work as a helper. She so urgingly want the family to like her and soften their hearts towards her that she resort to use "Black Magic", soaking her used sanitary pads to boil water for the entire family to drink.
Recently, there are even few cases of the maids murdering the employers in cold blood, claiming that they were brutally abused by them.
What is it with those employers that they have to abuse the maids. Is there a need to feel superior to the people from the 3rd world country? Just because they are our employees doesn't make us any better then them. In fact, they are more courageous than many of us, leaving home, friends and family to come work for the two-three hundred dollars in a strange foreign land of complete different culture and language. how mamy of us can do that?
The truth of the matter is, we are all created by God, we are to love one another the way we love ourselves, (unless you like to punish and abuse yourself, for that, please see a doctor)) there is no reason we should behave in manners that would degrade us to criminal level.
For me, I would not even allow my maid to eat left overs... she has access to any food in fridge or cupboard anytime she wants. She can drink all the water she wants...
no question asked.
Wednesday, July 20, 2005
But the thought of being able to stay in bed a little longer (at least until the clinic is opened) is intriguingly tempting. But still the sense of righteousness and responsibility triumphed over the lusty flesh... Heaven rejoice!!!
Monday, July 18, 2005
I was in her clinic wittnessing the skillful surgeon at work, reason to why I was there, I'm not in the liberty to say. Its a need to know basis, this is the part you don't need to know.
This is Verena, another princess of a dear friend of ours.
From the picture you can see that see that she is straining poo-poo... during our lunch.
She's been attending Kindermuzik in Tanglin Mall, a funfilled way to enhance children's musical talents. Verena has aquired a pretty good singing voice, no problem hitting the high notes.
Last night, she wanted to go wee-wee. So she walked up to the toilet but found that my maid Yani is bathing in it. Being a little tyran, she demanded her to open the door to let her come in to pee.
The reply came from the inside was to ask her to wait. But after much threatening with the urge to pee at the door, the maid reluctantly opened the door for her. (No picture shown) Isabel looked up at her, smiled, and said "It's ok, I'll go use my Daddy's toilet." Then she ran off.
Friday, July 15, 2005
My wife has left office for home, I hope she has an umbrella.
Home is the place I always look forward to by the end of the day. My elder daughter would smile and shout for me, come running to give me a big hug. I would carry her in my arms, ask her what she did today. She would then gladly tell me.
Home... it is a sanctuary... it is a glimps of heaven.
Hello People, This is my first blog, I would like to dedicate it to my wife Xanthe and take this opportunity to thank her for always being there for me, loving me and taking care of me.
This year is our fifth year of marriage, The Lord has given us 2 very beautiful daughters. The older of the 2 is Isabel, who is turning 3 by 25th October this year. Being a toddler with an inquisitive mind, she has loads of questions, and not to mention nerves of steel to test her boundaries. For example: she requested for a slice of bread. So my wife, being a loving mother, went through the trouble of slicing the bread, spreading it with her favorite cheese, gave it to her... she took 2 small bites then walked to the kitchen and disposed it in the rubbish bin!!??!! Needless to say, that action is followed by the reaction of my wife chasing after her for a good whooping.
Our 2nd daughter Ally is our gem, her smiles lights up my day anytime. Her giggle melts my heart. Although she is a little over weight... at 5 months she is already weighing more than 8 kg, but no one is complaining. Her good looks all comes from her mother, Isabel got hers from me, which makes the two of them distinct beauties. She hardly cries for attention, which makes her easy to care for. She is now experimenting with cerels, her favorite is the banana flavor. She gets really excited when she hears the Sesame Street music from her toy.
The two sisters are one of a kind, Isabel loves and protects her sister, "whacking" anyone who dares to try taking her away. She sing songs to little Ally, dance for her to make her laugh.
These 2 girls are my pride and joy.
My wife and I have a bunch of good friends staying in the neighbourhood, we gather often, sharing our lives and tips of caring for the children. They are friends that have went thru thick and thins with us, they were there when we were in the most difficult time. I thank God for each and everyone of them.
This is our Church cell group N116 from City Harvest Church, the largest church in Singapore. We meet every Thursday to study the word of God. Every one of us comes from different background but we come together with a common interest... Love of God. We may be Christians, but when it comes to having fun... we have FUN!!! Movies... bowling... badminton... etc.
Praise the Lord.